#51 - 21 Bits of Advice for Newlyweds
Are you engaged or recently married? Do you know someone who is? Or have you been married for a while and forget all of the helpful newlywed tips? Take a listen as Joy & Billy review 21 quick bits of advice for how to get marriage off to a great start!
Spoiler… here’s the list!
- Go to bed at the same time
- No device in the bedroom
- Do unpleasant tasks together
- Hang out a lot together. (Aim for inefficiency)
- Create shorthand triggers
- Nest together
- Practice your faith together
- Prioritize community
- Serve together
- Observe the 10-to-10 rule
- Think about “being kind” rather than “being nice”
- Avoid major cash outlays in the first year
- Also avoid major new time commitments
- Have a plan with the in-laws
- Give yourselves time to grow – pace yourself
- Commit to NO conversations in your head!
- But don’t say EVERYthing!
- Don’t lose yourself
- Date your spouse
- Sneakaway with your spouse
- Assume good intentions
Talk about this:
If you're a newlywed or engaged, review the ENTIRE list with your spouse/fiance and talk about which areas might be challenges for you.
If you've been married for a while talk to your spouse about which of these YOU find most challenging.
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ode Billy and Joy talk about how our family of origin impacts our marriage and why we need to get this connections out in the open. They discuss triggers and how to build empathy through understanding our background.
Talk about this:
- How do you think your/my childhood home influences our home and marriage... for better or worse? What seems to be a specific tension for us?
- What tendencies are responses TOWARD upbringing? What tendencies are responses AWAY from upbringing?
- What is the healthiest way forward for use to address these tensions?
- What are some good prompts, agreements, or reminders we can use to short-cut the impact of the negative habits?
Also remember…
We are on Facebook! If you like the page you’ll receive more consistent updates and be able to share episodes with others. Connect with us @BetweenParentsPodcast
Have you left a review on Apple Podcasts (formerly know as iTunes)? This is SUPER helpful in helping others find our show. Along with Apple Podcasts, Overcast, and Stitcher, Between Parents is now on TuneIn (the fun way to listen if you are using Amazon’s Alexa). You can chat back with us on Twitter @between_parents or on Instagram @betweenparents