The Art of the Unexplained "No"

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The word "no" is not only one of my least favorite words to hear, it's also one of my least favorite words to say.

I love imagining possibilities.

I am optimistic about my capacity to do more than a 24-hour day allows.

I enjoy being agreeable.

I love saying yes.

Still, I am a firm believer in boundaries and that means a steady use of negatives. I try to be nice, but saying no leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.  To "rinse my palate," I use a mouthwash of explanations and excuses hoping to get an understanding.

But lately I'm thinking there are advantages to giving an unadorned, simple, unexplained "no."   I am particularly inspired by one of my favorite writers, E. B. White (of Charlotte's Web fame).

Check out this masterpiece which gives a clear "no" without giving clear reasons.

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EB white secret reasons

I'm taking notes.